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Sometimes You Shine More Beautifully As The Reflection Of The Light

(June 24, 2018) I was walking through a park yesterday when I came upon a huge family birthday party complete with balloons, banners and barbecue. I asked one of the group whose birthday it was. He directed me to the family partiarch, PaPa, who was turning 77. I told him Happy Birthday. They told me … Continue reading Sometimes You Shine More Beautifully As The Reflection Of The Light

Fathers, Please Let Your Sons Grow Up To Be Gentle

(June 14, 2018) With Father’s Day upon us, I would like to make a plea to the fathers of boys. Let them be gentle. I know the natural inclination is to want them to be tough and commanding, but if they have a gentle soul, let them be gentle. It’s no less masculine. In fact, … Continue reading Fathers, Please Let Your Sons Grow Up To Be Gentle

Bloom Where You’re Planted… Or Not

(June 9, 2018) I recently toured the stunning estate and gardens of Lotusland here in Santa Barbara. My favorite area was the cacti garden. The docent leading our tour told us that only one of the hundreds of flourishing cacti planted in the gardens was native to California. That got me thinking about the phrase, … Continue reading Bloom Where You’re Planted… Or Not

How To Calm Yourself Down

(May 17, 2018) Do you ever feel like you’re spinning too fast and everything you try to calm yourself down just makes you spin faster? Sometimes the only thing that works is shutting yourself down completely for as long as it takes to reset your mind. That’s not an easy thing to do, especially when … Continue reading How To Calm Yourself Down

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When A Door Closes, Somewhere A Window Opens – Or Does It?

(May 11, 2018) You know the old quote, "When a door closes, somewhere a window opens." That's always seemed like a hopeful, yet passive, outlook on the future. Maybe when the door closes, you have to find the window and open it yourself. That's been my experience. I was sitting at lunch the other day … Continue reading When A Door Closes, Somewhere A Window Opens – Or Does It?

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My Mom Taught Me The Right Way To Treat People – Aggressively, In A Good Way

(May 8, 2018) My mom is 85 years old and she is aggressive. And, she taught me how to be aggressive, too. It’s how she taught me the right way to treat people. Her aggression shows up mainly in three areas. Three things that she passed on to me and our entire family. Watch out … Continue reading My Mom Taught Me The Right Way To Treat People – Aggressively, In A Good Way

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Feed Your Senses To Get Some Peace

(April 27, 2018) Are you feeling a bit agitated, but don't have time for a full unwind? Feed your senses for 30 seconds to get some peace until you can make time to fully decompress. Sight Focus on something beautiful for 30 seconds. I live by the beach, so 30 seconds of looking at the … Continue reading Feed Your Senses To Get Some Peace